Making your Groom’s Speech

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The groom’s speech is generally the second hardest thing next to planning the wedding itself. Generally falling after the father of the bride to be speech comes the grooms and than the best mans. It’s three guys attempting to tell their story and do it the best way they knew how. I would treat the grooms speech as one of the most important and memorable keynote speech because the whole wedding ceremony is about you and your new bride.

In order to write and say the perfect groom’s speech for your wedding, you need to start working on it as early as possible. I can tell you right now, writing a groom speech is not that easy. You can spend hours, even days on it and it still won’t sound right to you. If you wait until the last minute, it will definitely show. Luckily there is one thing you have going for you — there is time until the wedding day.

If you are not the best speaker that’s okay; you can still write a heartfelt speech, add some humor and If you wrote your own vows then you will have practice writing your groom’s speech. It doesn’t have to be a long and drawn out thing, it’s should be about five to ten minutes long.

I would probably first start out with how you met and how those circumstances grew into the relationship that you have now. Also, I would talk about the future the things that the two of you are planning together: a dog, a house, or maybe start family. People love to be recognized for their contribution so make sure you don’t forget to list everybody involved. Start with immediate family first then move on down the line and you can also group people, aunts, uncles and friends.

I would practice my groom’s speech a few times before actually presenting it on your wedding day. You don’t want to burst into tears while speaking If you are an emotional guy. So practice by speaking in front of a mirror.

I think it’s important to note that your speech is the most recognizable by your new wife so write it for her but present it to your guests. Give your speech to your best man to see what he thinks, if he says it was good and didn’t want me to make any changes. Chances are, your best man is also your best friend so he’ll be honest with you.

Steps to creating your speech

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Talking to your friends married and unmarried can leave you with many thoughts and ideas on how to start your speech. Or it can also do the opposite give you to many leads on where to start. So here are some helpful tips to get you started.

1. Get your thoughts and Ideas organized

Make a list of those you want to recognize for coming to the wedding. All the participants of the wedding best man, brides maids, mother, father, in-laws, aunts, uncles, etc… Write down little stories that you can use  that go well with your speech.

2. Start putting thoughts together

After you have your thoughts gather start putting them together. It doesn’t need to make sense at first because its just your rough draft. Add some humor or jokes, write short stories about how your love came to be or maybe just say thank you to those who helped out and support you up till now.

3.Initial outline

After writing a rough draft of what you have in mind it should leave you with an initial outline that you can fine tune by adding more or taking what you don’t want out. As the days go by and they will go by quick you’ll find yourself adding more comments and detail to your speech.

If you want to learn more about tips and tricks on how to start preparing, you might want to check out the guide that I used. Wedding Speech Guide

Part 2.

With your initial outline created make sure to transition your thank you’s and recognitions sound natural and smooth going from one person to another.  Use natural words that make you feel comfortable and make you feel like you.

To make it more personal, mention a few funny stories or unique experiences you had with the person. Your goal is not to make the audience laugh but to make them feel how sincere you are. Sharing your personal experiences would make the speech more heartfelt.

Part 3.

After all that start to create your finished product. Start to polish your speech, read it over, and over, and over again. Add more details, short stories, humor, take out what you think is gonna drag out the speech or just the things you don’t believe to be important. Add some new passages that may go well and take out the ones you don’t think fit. Use short and simple sentences, and rehearse whenever you get a chance to help get those butterflies out. With all the information and writing you have down, you should have the final version of your Groom’s Speech in no time at all.

If you want to learn more about tips and tricks on how to start preparing, you might want to check out the guide that I used. Wedding Speech Guide

Groom’s Toast – Say the Right Words

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When it comes to pleasing people, forgetting to thank someone is one thing – but saying the wrong thing altogether in the groom toasts could be a complete disaster! So I looked up a number of great tips to help you avoid this embarrassing situation.

Pleasing Your Bride

One of the worst things you could possibly do is to start talking about your past relationships. It might seem obvious, but grooms do it without evening thinking! Even if you want to compare your new wife will not appreciate it – especially on the most important day of her life!

You should also speak favorably of the bride at all times. Though it may seem fitting to add a slightly teasing joke, this is not the right situation for it. In your speech stick to what you know your bride would want to hear, and it’ll work!

Alcohol

No matter how well you might have prepared your speech your number one enemy could be alcohol. This has the potential to bring just about anyone down, making them say the wrong thing. So drink in moderation at least until your speech is over, after that have a blast. It really is a day to celebrate!

A Few Other Tips

One thing that made the idea of grooms speeches stressful to me was the fact I didn’t plan ahead. And not planning ahead means being in a lot less control of what you say. Luckily there are now plenty of sources of help online for those who want even a funny wedding speech that doesn’t offend anyone.

Adding Humor to your Speech

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One of the most important elements of many wedding speech is that it must be funny. It doesn’t all need to be funny, but funny groom speeches are a great crowd  getter – so as long as they are still poignant all the same and don’t offend anyone.

Remember even though you wanted to be funny, still keep in mind that it has to be respectful. Do not tread on anyone’s toes and do not insult anyone including the bride and her parents! Goodness only knows how any of those kind of jokes would have gone down!

The Secret to Good Speech Humor

One of the great use of humor in my own wedding speech was to make sure that everyone kept listening. I used it at different times as a way of grabbing attention and making sure they were focused. The groom should be the center of attention when talking about any speech at the wedding, as well as directed onto his bride, of course!

Another great tip is to be informal and interact with the audience. This isn’t a lecture hall it’s a toast! The groom should always feel like they are having a conversation with friends.

Make eye contact with the audience, and don’t fix your gaze in one direction constantly. I found that practicing with friends really helped me to improve this technique before the big day.